That's fine Chemmy and apologies for being a bit defensive. I am usually very much of the same opinion as you where personal responsibilty versus public dependency is concerned so was just a bit surprised!
I have to say that I'm also confusing this thread with the other one re tenants-in-common, hence my reference to Pete R's posts!
I know that the fact that this was, for all three of us, our family home and it needs to be maintained as such until the time comes that it has to be sold is absolutely irrelevant to LA or those managing the process but it just makes it all more upsetting.
So, in this case, is the house not owned by your mother as a tentant-in -common but outright? If so, and if the rent is no longer covering the fees and the aim of your brother and his wife moving in was to protect the house for the family, then I'm really surprised that the LA disregarded it in the first place. Surely everyone could do that - i.e. sell their own home and move into a home of a parent who is in a home and the fact that your brother was 60 when this happened, doesn't make any difference - does it?
You say that the house needs to be maintained until the time comes that it has to be sold but when should that be? Surely it is now - or if you wish to retain it for the future then it is right that a deferred payment should be placed upon it.
It just doesn't add up somehow - or am I missing something vital.
Apologies if I am but I'm rather confused! So perhaps I should keep quiet now and let others who can see things more clearly advise!
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