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Hello .... I need any advice I can get deal with a suspected case of financial abuse.
Please help.
Regards CAULICOLE
My mother was financially abused by my sister £25000over 3 years. Amounts got bigger and intervals got smaller. Sister lived with mum and intercepted mail eg bank statements. Got mum aged 84 tomget double glazing . Think she must of got mum to repeatedly pay bill.
Mum would let her use bank card to go shopping , pay bills etc.
I contacted police who referred me to vulnerable adult team, took 3 weeks to interview mum, £700 taken under my nose.
Wanted to put mum in care home while they investigated, mum said she should be in care not me. Mum ended up staying in my back room and still is 6 yrs later.
Sister never admitted theft, said had special relationship with mum, who likes to treat her ... Hols in barbados, numerous other places ,leather jkts, cashmere and designer clothes . Sister life was cocktails, champagne, gambling, £100 -200 per bet.
SW said money has been spent, wont get it back, not worth prosecuting as sisters defence will wipe floor with mum having memory impairment . Mum was so ashamed and blamed self for being too soft with daughter.
I have since contacted my local police station and they were interested but mum has to initiate contact.
I dont know if it would have been different if mum was in advanced dementia when sister was investigated. Surely dementia cant be a licence to steal from.
I have mentioned it to some people at carers centre and sadly it is v common, maybe not as much as what sister took but it happens alot and people are too ashamed . Just remembered mum said peoplecwill laugh at me and think im thick.
If you dont have any conscience , take a chance and steal, chances are you will,get away with it.