1. MeganCat

    MeganCat Registered User

    Jan 29, 2013
    356
    South Wales
    The hospital wanted to speak to me today, mum continues to deteriorate, despite being over flu, and sleeps continuously, with a sort of humming snoring, she still has a rattley chest, and won't eat or drink. I haven't any family close by but my friends are great and supportive. But I still feel very alone in this.
    I just don't know what to expect or how long this phase will last. She was fully mobile a fortnight ago. I guess that's a blessing in a way.
     
  2. Necion

    Necion Registered User

    Hello Megancat,

    You will be very worried at the moment, nothing about life goes by a rule-book, does it.

    Just having a look through the threads and noticed you hadn't had a reply yet, but I'm sorry, I don't know the background of your situation, not that it matters.

    The situation you describe can certainly mean a lessening of the abilities to cough etc, but everyone is different, I wouldn't want to give an opinion.

    I hope you are able to be with your mum, but even if not she is obviously calm, and in safe care.
    Sending you a big hug and loads of strength, just take things as they come, and be kind to yourself.

    lots of love, Neicon. xx
     
  3. Benrese

    Benrese Registered User

    Apr 12, 2014
    186
    Lancashire
    Hi Megancat,

    Yes, this must be a very lonely time. Although we can be surrounded by friends, it's still the sort of journey that one must walk with one's own two feet, in so many ways.

    You are grieving a bit at a time. As you say, maybe this is the kinder way for your Mum. She has you and I am sure she knows that. We will all be here for you and you can post night or day. Someone will always be round to see how things are going and to share their experiences.

    It can be a very big old world when you are going through this type of experience. But do try and know, you will never be alone. And it sounds as though your mum is in good hands as well.

    Hope you find some peace this night and are sleeping a bit.

    Take gentle and good care.
     
  4. Gigglemore

    Gigglemore Registered User

    Oct 18, 2013
    526
    British Isles
    Hope your Mum is sleeping and peaceful, it is such a difficult time for you. Good to know you have understanding friends to lean on.
     
  5. MeganCat

    MeganCat Registered User

    Jan 29, 2013
    356
    South Wales
    Thank you for your support. She was occasionally talkative today, rambling on with quite long stories but making little sense - I couldn't tell what she was talking about but it involved her parents and grandmother. Then snippets that made sense - that I was a good boy (?) whilst I recognise it might just be a little window and she'll probably return to sleeping mostly it was nice to see her with her eyes open and have her squeeze my hand.
     
  6. Raggedrobin

    Raggedrobin Registered User

    Jan 20, 2014
    1,432
    It's so difficult, isn't it, the uncertainties, the fluctuations. I also feel fairly alone in my situation with Mum and am glad that we can share on here. In some ways we are on our own with it, in other ways, there are so many of us who hold each others' hands.
     
  7. Pickles53

    Pickles53 Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    2,482
    Radcliffe on Trent
    These last steps along the road are so hard, I wish you strength in your vigil and peace for you both.
     
  8. angecmc

    angecmc Registered User

    Dec 25, 2012
    2,109
    hertfordshire
    Thinking of you xx

    Ange
     
  9. MeganCat

    MeganCat Registered User

    Jan 29, 2013
    356
    South Wales
    Thank you. Mum ate some food today, after about 5 days of not eating, and hardly drinking and was awake for a lot of my visit. Still rambling but some of 'her' in there too. Her cough is worse- looser. Apparently she'd told the Dr off earlier too!
    I know what you mean ragged robin about the fluctuations- I'm a bit all over the place, one day at a time!
     

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