Everything seemed to be going well, my inlaws have just spent their first month in the carehome and we have all heaved huge sighs of relief.
FiL as you know, has always had a nasty, uncontrolled temper and coupled with dementia it's an unhappy match. Unfortunately on Saturday evening, we had a call to say he'd been particularly aggressive that day and we might want to come over and have a talk with him.
He'd been watching football in one of the big lounges surrounded by other guests and had been screaming at them to (insert expletives) SHUT UP I'M TRYING TO WATCH THE TELLY. Staff intervened. A little later, he had turned on MiL and was almost spitting into her face as he yelled 'I HATE YOU' over and over. Staff intervened again. That afternoon he threatened the lady that he'd taken against from day one - she just wanted to sit with them. He yelled at her and to 'encourage' her to move, he went after her waving his arms until she turned into the bathroom to get away from him - nurse on duty came running over at this point but he still tried to follow the lady in. She hit him on the wrist leaving a large bruise. Staff called this a 'major invasion of space' and Fil will be monitored closely from now on.
Makes me sad and cross at the same time. Husband had a quick meeting with the manager today and he said, we'll keep monitoring him and intervene as and when. Re-evaluate the situation (and review any logged incidents) in a few weeks time. The GP will consider anti-anxiety meds for him.
FiL remembers what he did and is unrepentant. When we visited yesterday, he waved his hand airily and merely said, 'it's been struck from the record' - whatever that might mean.
If he continues to upset the other residents (and this is the worst he's been so far, there have been a few other outbursts but nothing as bad as this). I just wonder how
on earth we'd find another home that would take him, if he was given notice to leave. Husband has said to me - I'd leave Mum where she is, she's happy and settled.
Sighs......!
FiL as you know, has always had a nasty, uncontrolled temper and coupled with dementia it's an unhappy match. Unfortunately on Saturday evening, we had a call to say he'd been particularly aggressive that day and we might want to come over and have a talk with him.
He'd been watching football in one of the big lounges surrounded by other guests and had been screaming at them to (insert expletives) SHUT UP I'M TRYING TO WATCH THE TELLY. Staff intervened. A little later, he had turned on MiL and was almost spitting into her face as he yelled 'I HATE YOU' over and over. Staff intervened again. That afternoon he threatened the lady that he'd taken against from day one - she just wanted to sit with them. He yelled at her and to 'encourage' her to move, he went after her waving his arms until she turned into the bathroom to get away from him - nurse on duty came running over at this point but he still tried to follow the lady in. She hit him on the wrist leaving a large bruise. Staff called this a 'major invasion of space' and Fil will be monitored closely from now on.
Makes me sad and cross at the same time. Husband had a quick meeting with the manager today and he said, we'll keep monitoring him and intervene as and when. Re-evaluate the situation (and review any logged incidents) in a few weeks time. The GP will consider anti-anxiety meds for him.
FiL remembers what he did and is unrepentant. When we visited yesterday, he waved his hand airily and merely said, 'it's been struck from the record' - whatever that might mean.
If he continues to upset the other residents (and this is the worst he's been so far, there have been a few other outbursts but nothing as bad as this). I just wonder how
on earth we'd find another home that would take him, if he was given notice to leave. Husband has said to me - I'd leave Mum where she is, she's happy and settled.
Sighs......!
