Fighting Carers giving personal care

Discussion in 'I care for a person with dementia' started by GKT, Jun 21, 2019.

  1. GKT

    GKT New member

    Jun 21, 2019
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    Mum is 89, very frail and was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s 10 years ago. She is now bed ridden in a care home. The care is excellent however they struggle with personal care as mum goes rigid, grabs onto them and scratches them. They tried giving her pain relief before trying to change her pads in case it was causing her pain but this didn’t help. Any ideas please
     
  2. jaymor

    jaymor Volunteer Moderator

    Jul 14, 2006
    12,406
    Female
    England
    Hi @GKT and welcome to DTP.

    Are the Carers talking to your Mum before they approach her? In my husband’s nursing home they always told him what they were about to do and why. He obviously didn’t always understand what they were saying but I’m convinced he felt more at ease as two people stood over him and started to remove some of his clothing. I know I would fight tooth and nail if I was approached by people trying to remove my clothing without giving me a reason, it’s a natural reaction. I know Carers are busy but time taken to make someone comfortable with what’s going on will save time and hopefully reduce the distress. Of course they may be doing this and it’s not working, Dementia has a way of defeating all efforts.
     
  3. Bunpoots

    Bunpoots Registered User

    Apr 1, 2016
    2,817
    Nottinghamshire
    Hi @GKT and welcome from me too.

    As well as what Jaymore has suggested I wonder if giving your mum a soft toy to hold would help? Or even a nice squishy cushion.
     
  4. Helly68

    Helly68 Registered User

    Mar 12, 2018
    371
    It may also be something associated with bathing or changing. We got a soft sponge for Mummy as she didn't like the feel of the flannel. Could also be feeling the cold....
     
  5. Dootee

    Dootee Registered User

    Mar 8, 2016
    19
    does she take a calmer ? Lorazepam? Or is she past that medication? My mum is more engaging after one ? X
     
  6. marionq

    marionq Registered User

    Apr 24, 2013
    5,746
    Female
    Scotland
    @jaymor I think that is an important point which I've learned thehard way. I tell John what I'm about to do and then do it talking all the time to distract him.
     

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