I may be posting this in the wrong place but...
Dad moved into a new care home a few days ago, after a bad fall and a stay in hospital and a period of intermediate care. I'm struggling to cope with all the feelings it's bringing up... I'm completely shattered, emotionally and physically.
Dad was independent till now, with no outside help except family. His health was in decline though (symptoms of dementia though not diagnosed). So I've been visiting most days since his fall, taking care of the washing & ironing, checking on his house (40 minutes away), sorting out finances, making decisions that I'm totally uncomfortable with, all while taking care of my own family. Thankfully I'm not working (which is a result of my own health problems... diagnosed with breast cancer two years ago).
So this weekend is my first time 'off' and I'm wracked with guilt. I want to see him but know I need the rest. But I can't rest because I'm wracked with guilt!
I hope it gets easier :-(. Friends kept telling me it'd be a relief once dad had moved into care and I knew he was safe, but it's just not feeling that way right now...
Dad moved into a new care home a few days ago, after a bad fall and a stay in hospital and a period of intermediate care. I'm struggling to cope with all the feelings it's bringing up... I'm completely shattered, emotionally and physically.
Dad was independent till now, with no outside help except family. His health was in decline though (symptoms of dementia though not diagnosed). So I've been visiting most days since his fall, taking care of the washing & ironing, checking on his house (40 minutes away), sorting out finances, making decisions that I'm totally uncomfortable with, all while taking care of my own family. Thankfully I'm not working (which is a result of my own health problems... diagnosed with breast cancer two years ago).
So this weekend is my first time 'off' and I'm wracked with guilt. I want to see him but know I need the rest. But I can't rest because I'm wracked with guilt!
I hope it gets easier :-(. Friends kept telling me it'd be a relief once dad had moved into care and I knew he was safe, but it's just not feeling that way right now...
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