As some of you already know my OH was diagnosed in march this year with vascular dementia, he has had a few chest infections over the months the last one being in june thought it had gone but hadnt saw dr give him more antibiotics hadnt cleared up then we saw the dr again last week another dose of antibiotics.He seems a lot better now but what I thought was the infection that was making him more confused wasnt it is the dementia. His dementia has progressed and sometimes he thinks Im the other woman in the house.
My family are really worried about me think Im not coping very well ,my mother keeps asking me if I have been in touch with social services yet and feels really sorry for me, and said What will you do when he doesnt recognise you? . I havent been very well myself as I have a bad ear and the doctors are not syringing ears at the moment and it has been getting me down. My sister is a district nurse and she thinks I might need some rest and suggested I think about putting my OH in a care home for a while. I dont need any one to feel sorry for me , but I think I might of been in denial with my OH dementia and it has just dawned on me now what is going to happen. Sometimes I think I wish he would just hurry up and die (GOD FORGIVE ME) THIS IS SO CRUEL
My Dermentia Support Worker had been in touch with my GP to refer him back to the Memory Clinic, they wont see him because there is nothing they can do for him no medication to treat it can only step in if he becomes violent . That is sticking in my mind as well . All and all I dont know what to do I take every day as it comes but I didnt realize what it was going to be like . Sometimes I wait until My OH is in bed and I have a good cry.I know there most be others out there that are in my shoes right now that might be able to help .Lockdown hasnt helped because there are no memory cafes or even day centres where my OH could go to. He has become very clingy (I understand why now ) and wants my undivided attention . part of me feels like running away but I cant. I love him dearly but sometimes I think I cant do this
My family are really worried about me think Im not coping very well ,my mother keeps asking me if I have been in touch with social services yet and feels really sorry for me, and said What will you do when he doesnt recognise you? . I havent been very well myself as I have a bad ear and the doctors are not syringing ears at the moment and it has been getting me down. My sister is a district nurse and she thinks I might need some rest and suggested I think about putting my OH in a care home for a while. I dont need any one to feel sorry for me , but I think I might of been in denial with my OH dementia and it has just dawned on me now what is going to happen. Sometimes I think I wish he would just hurry up and die (GOD FORGIVE ME) THIS IS SO CRUEL
My Dermentia Support Worker had been in touch with my GP to refer him back to the Memory Clinic, they wont see him because there is nothing they can do for him no medication to treat it can only step in if he becomes violent . That is sticking in my mind as well . All and all I dont know what to do I take every day as it comes but I didnt realize what it was going to be like . Sometimes I wait until My OH is in bed and I have a good cry.I know there most be others out there that are in my shoes right now that might be able to help .Lockdown hasnt helped because there are no memory cafes or even day centres where my OH could go to. He has become very clingy (I understand why now ) and wants my undivided attention . part of me feels like running away but I cant. I love him dearly but sometimes I think I cant do this