Hello ,
I just wondered if anyone else has had these feelings after parents have gone into a Care Home.....
3 weeks ago we successfully moved my parents closer to me - both have Dementia ( Dad Alz and Mum Mixed ). It was the right time as even with Carers 4x a day there was a need for 24 hour care.
We chose a small home and I've been told they are settling in well.
I have visited once a week and phoned so as to allow them time to settle and get to know other residents and staff but now I'm struggling to feel any pleasure in going to see them and that makes me feel so sad. I get a bit anxious about phoning and having to book a time slot too - silly as the staff are very friendly.
I'm not sure if I'm just totally exhausted by the past 2+ years of caring or am struggling to suddenly not be in control of everything.
I spent the first week in tears.
I do now have to sort out everything to do with their house and will need to organise to put it on the market very soon - another worry and just feel I'm lacking the motivation and energy.
I know it is early days but just wondered if anyone else had the same feelings as these? I feel guilty as I love my parents dearly.
I just wondered if anyone else has had these feelings after parents have gone into a Care Home.....
3 weeks ago we successfully moved my parents closer to me - both have Dementia ( Dad Alz and Mum Mixed ). It was the right time as even with Carers 4x a day there was a need for 24 hour care.
We chose a small home and I've been told they are settling in well.
I have visited once a week and phoned so as to allow them time to settle and get to know other residents and staff but now I'm struggling to feel any pleasure in going to see them and that makes me feel so sad. I get a bit anxious about phoning and having to book a time slot too - silly as the staff are very friendly.
I'm not sure if I'm just totally exhausted by the past 2+ years of caring or am struggling to suddenly not be in control of everything.
I spent the first week in tears.
I do now have to sort out everything to do with their house and will need to organise to put it on the market very soon - another worry and just feel I'm lacking the motivation and energy.
I know it is early days but just wondered if anyone else had the same feelings as these? I feel guilty as I love my parents dearly.