Any advice out there for the feeling torn between wanting to spend as much time as possible with mum in the final stages of life, she's new to the dementia side but other health problems means we don't know how much longer we have her, and wanting to spend time with my husband. He is lonely as I am at my mums house a lot and we have always been a very 'closed couple' so we don't have a network of friends for him to lean on while I'm concentrating on my mum and we've never been able to have kids so we haven't got that side for him to concentrate on. He does completely understand what I have to do but there is friction sometimes and as I'm doing so much for mum I don't have time for him or us and definitely not me. Any advise on how to cope with this side of being a carer??