I haven't been on here for a while but today I am feeling really low and just feel I need to talk.
After a long wait mum and I finally got a visit from a social worker to assess mum and her needs!
Mum was diagnosed with AD in Feb this year but I believe she has had it for a couple of years. I am well aware it is early days and many on here have much worse to cope with but it just astounded me that mum is considered "independent" because she can get her own food and go to the loo herself and I live with her!
So, we are not entitled to any help!
The fact is, if mum says she is happy to be alone sometimes and she feels she can cope and look after herself then all is well apparently!
My doctor told me I was run down and in need of a break but I have no hope.
I had hoped to get some time alone in my own home but the only way I can get some me time is to go out and leave mum alone at home which I feel really guilty doing.
Guess I am just being pathetic but I am finding the constant repetition of questions about things mum has known for years or already been told, doing the majority of the daily chores, reminding mum to take tablets, tidying up things that need to go in the fridge/freezer etc., hunting for things that have been put in a safe place, going to work and the constant worry about the future so very frustrating and difficult!
It just feels like no-one is listening to me or that I just don't matter.
I know that sounds really selfish but mum seems to think everything is fine.
She doesn't realise that when she says she is having "a bad day" that she actually says that EVERYDAY! and that I get bad days sometimes and just want to cry/sleep all day without having to worry about her or what she is doing.
Sorry! If anyone has read all this then thank you!
I just really needed to rant as I can't talk to mum and there is no-one else .
After a long wait mum and I finally got a visit from a social worker to assess mum and her needs!
Mum was diagnosed with AD in Feb this year but I believe she has had it for a couple of years. I am well aware it is early days and many on here have much worse to cope with but it just astounded me that mum is considered "independent" because she can get her own food and go to the loo herself and I live with her!
So, we are not entitled to any help!
The fact is, if mum says she is happy to be alone sometimes and she feels she can cope and look after herself then all is well apparently!
My doctor told me I was run down and in need of a break but I have no hope.
I had hoped to get some time alone in my own home but the only way I can get some me time is to go out and leave mum alone at home which I feel really guilty doing.
Guess I am just being pathetic but I am finding the constant repetition of questions about things mum has known for years or already been told, doing the majority of the daily chores, reminding mum to take tablets, tidying up things that need to go in the fridge/freezer etc., hunting for things that have been put in a safe place, going to work and the constant worry about the future so very frustrating and difficult!
It just feels like no-one is listening to me or that I just don't matter.
I know that sounds really selfish but mum seems to think everything is fine.
She doesn't realise that when she says she is having "a bad day" that she actually says that EVERYDAY! and that I get bad days sometimes and just want to cry/sleep all day without having to worry about her or what she is doing.
Sorry! If anyone has read all this then thank you!
I just really needed to rant as I can't talk to mum and there is no-one else .