As many of you know MIL lives in an annexe with us. The garden is now fenced in so that she can’t go a wandering. We very occasionally leave her for 2-3 hours, most of the time she is asleep and doesn’t know we’re out although we leave a note on our patio door to remind her. Today she had just got up as we were going out so Himself (my husband) made her breakfast (at 1.30pm!) and we told her we’d be back soon. Himself got a phone call from a neighbour to say MIL was hysterical in the garden. This neighbour is a very good friend and has a key as she often lets the dog out for us. We were only at the village hall 5 mins away so I came home straight away. MIL was doing a good job of being confused and upset but the neighbour was feeding this hysteria by saying “I’m going to make sure you’re never going to be left on your own again, look at me, I’ll make sure this never happens again”. She then turned on me when I said to MIL “it’s all ok, lets make a cup of tea”. A torrent of abuse followed and then she stomped off leaving her key in our patio door. I made MIL a cuppa and sat her down in front of the tv and she was quite calm, came back to my house and burst into tears. Now I’m totally confused and upset. I know this neighbour has got a point but she’s also upset with me over something totally unrelated and I think it all spilt out this afternoon in her angry outburst. We do take calculated risks with leaving MIL occasionally otherwise we’d miss out on doing some things as a couple. Most of our life revolves around MIL and sometimes I just wish I only had myself to think about. I think what I need to know is do you think it’s acceptable to leave MIL or are we indeed being cruel and abusive?