Hello all . I went to the meeting re Mum yesterday . She has been in a short stay pychiatric unit for almost three weeks now. Well, the outcome is that Mum is going into a home as my long suffering step Dad has at last admitted that he can no longer cope with her , I feel so sad for him , he was weighed down with guilt even though we are all trying to convince him that he not letting anyone down . We are fortunate that there is a residentail nursing home with en EMI unit very close to where they live , its just five minutes walk away and we think that a place is available for Mum in about two weeks time so she will stay where she is until then . I have to say that she is very calm at the moment and rarely has the panic attacks that were so frequent before she was admitted to hospital and the staff think that its because she feels safe and secure and has a routine . Both my sister and I feel relieved but also sad , its the end of an era and so sad that an old couple must be split up but Dad is now resigned to it all and to be honest, I dont think that the splitting up side of it really upsets Mum too much , her memory is so poor that she often doesnt even know her husband anyway . Dad must now have support from all of us and we hope that his children will now do the right thing and come into play , they have sadly been lacking in care and attention up until now . Thankfully, Mum and Dads flat is in a sheltered accomodation unit and he has lots of friends and whilst frail himself, he still enjoys trips to the library and shops , I think he will be OK . Love Kate