Hi
As on other similar threads- it may not be that your mum is wanting to go to her old home,just somewhere she felt safe. Other threads mention pwd.thinking a childhood residence was still home.
You can only do so much-another moved,unless absolutely necessary,may disoriantate your mum more.
My mum been in ch since April last year,was in residential in a lovely upstairs room. No access to stairs unless door code used, but a lift they were able to use themselves,without staff if able to.
Unfortunatly, she is frail due to arthritis,and should always use her frame or walker. Due to previous mental health issues,she is very manipulative and even before dementia would disregard any rules or advice she did t agree with.
. She has several minor falls-most genuine due to not using the walker,or rolling out of bed-but some staged. She 'learnt' she got more attention following the falls,several trips to a&e and several ambulances called. Long story short-safe guarding concern raised by ambulance crew.
Last week I had to move her to a downstairs room for her own safety-this is on the dementia unit where the staff to resident ratio is higher,and residents are monitored throughout the night
She has become even more confused and irrational- and this is a move within same home,staff rotate between residential and dementia unit so she has familiar faces around,and her 'friends' still on residential can go and see her, she,however can not go into the garden unless there is a member of staff arround as she now 'slides'off her chair on to the floor.she can not go to the residential area on her own,again due to needing more supervision.
It seems that in her case the change in her immediate environment- the lounge and dinning area she uses,her own room etc-has accelerated her confused and angry state. I'm hoping she may re-settle quickly,she has seen the gp.several times in the last week and we are due at the memory clinic next Wednesday,so a change in meds.nay be on the books.
With hind site I wonder now if a move to a completely different ch/nh.may have been less stressful for her,but you can only do what seems to be best at the time
I really hope your mum settles soon. It makes the visits so hard to undertake when you are standing in the car part mentally gearing yourself up for what you expect to be an upsetting few hours.
Sending hugs and best wishes
Ros