Brucie said:
... we've all read the threads concerned, we all know the situation and in my book - you absolutely do belong here as a valued member of TP, and that is where we want you!
[much more I could write about the exchanges on the thread, but best not!
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Noelphobic, stop worrying - I think I am digging myself into 'most unpopular member on the site hole' this week - the trouble is I seem to be 'challenging' some people for whom I actually have great respect and huge appreciation for their support .... Now, before I set folks twitching again - this forum is surely not about popularity stakes? If we all agreed, there would be no need for the forum.... if we're here to 'point score' then we should not be here....?? We're here because we need to scream and shout and rant and rave and blow off every now and again - well, me being human, do ... and yes, some days are calmer and I think I can give something back...., and yes, somedays I 'blow' and get it wrong, and I’m sorry for that ... but I trust in the nature of the majority of people here is that they exactly understand that..... been there - even if they’re wiser than me and don’t hit the ‘Send’ button……
Right, to jump discreetly to the next soapbox
o ) - Brucie I can't agree that 'we've all read' ... and 'we all know' - some don't. Yes, some of us who have been around for a while kinda have some vibes (about 'THOSE' threads) ... but what Noelphobic was brave enough to do was to offer help to someone (in case they were genuine - and there's no doubt there is some need for help even if it's not dementia) whilst cleverly starting up alarm bells to existing or new members that perhaps …..
Now I feel I’m being all cryptic and don‘t mean to be ….. I guess this links very much to all the ‘safety’ issues I’ve been mulling over on another thread…. What I certainly don’t want to see is someone taking precious time and attention away from people who really need it …. And if Noelphobic is feeling as she does because she thought as I did BUT was brave enough to face the issue and not ignore it and in doing so, tried to help (ALL OF US) in a very diplomatic way then I feel let down too……and trying to ‘ignore’ has resulted in a very genuine and valued member being ‘ignored’. (Ditto Amy's apology, Neolphobic).
The ‘ignore the problem it might go away’ approach has proven to be very wrong .. And hardly a good philosophy for any of us in our practical lives…..
Noelphobic, one thing I am learning this week is to take on board the ‘backlash’ in the context of the person who is lashing out…….
PLEASE keep posting, keep supporting - you are a hugely compassionate, considerate, intelligent and at most times hugely motivated person - don’t let something like this demotivate you from the splendid stuff you do, including sharing here,
Much love, Karen, x