feeling proud of myself

Discussion in 'I have a partner with dementia' started by christmas, Feb 2, 2016.

  1. christmas

    christmas Registered User

    Apr 27, 2014
    Hi just had to tell you ,was woke up this morning with Peter standing over me he was in a state , bless him he had gone to the toilet and don't know what happen but it was all over the bathroom he has never done this before, he was very upset , the thing is I am not very good with this or so I thought .l hope I did right I told him it was ok we all have accidents and I cleaned him up put him back in bed and then clean it all up to my surprise it did not bother me , it made me realize what is in stall for me with the things I will have to do and now I know I can do this look after him and keep him safe I know its going to be hard but I am going to do my best for him he is just like a little boy and I want to hold him and tell him it will be alright but it won't Will it, hope you don't mine me telling you but I really felt proud of myself the way I handled it , I know I sound daft but when I helped my sister's look after my mum I wasn't very good with that side of it but I did it , but this time I just was not bothered I wonder why. Christmas xxx
  2. CeliaW

    CeliaW Registered User

    Jan 29, 2009
    Well done Christmas - its not easy to do many of the personal parts of caring. Not only did you manage the physical part of it but you obviously dealt with it in a way that showed such love and kindness to Peter and that will have meant a lot to him.

    I am not surprised you are pleased at how you coped, well done you ☺

    Take care x
  3. minxie

    minxie Registered User

    Dec 29, 2014
    Well done !!
    So you should be proud, such a difficult time for you!!!!!! stay strong.

    God blessxx
  4. pins tony

    pins tony Registered User

    Oct 20, 2014

    I to had to deal with a similar situation after my lovely wife June came back from her first week in care.I think they tried to help her to much.so I had to deal with this situation and I was surprised how I managed to cope June was so embarrassed so I supposed WE both coped.how she manages to cope with personal care in MH I don't know they say she ok all of you take care
  5. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    christmas and pins tony you should indeed be proud.

    Someone once told me this was something she dreaded happening too, but we as carers , feeling so much love for the person with dementia, are able to grow with it.
  6. Pear trees

    Pear trees Registered User

    Jan 25, 2015
    Well done for keeping calm and just getting on with it.
    It's the part of my mum's care I find hardest as well.
  7. tigerlady

    tigerlady Registered User

    Nov 29, 2015
    Well done christmas - I too thought that I could not cope with cleaning up my husband, but when it came to it, I managed fine, and wasnt squeamish about it at all - surprised myself.
  8. nae sporran

    nae sporran Volunteer Host

    Oct 29, 2014
    You should be proud of yourself Christmas, that is a part of caring which took a while to get used to. The funny thing is even OH got used to me doing a little cleaning up too, though she gets terribly embarrassed and calming her down is now the hardest part.

    Keep it up.
  9. Scarlett123

    Scarlett123 Registered User

    Apr 30, 2013
    Well done for coping so well, especially with something that was previously outside of your "comfort zone". It's amazing what you find you can do, isn't it, and you deserve to feel proud of yourself. xxx
  10. Aisling

    Aisling Registered User

    Dec 5, 2015

    Well well done. You should be proud of yourself. Keep posting. Aisling ( Ireland)
  11. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    Well done from me too Christmas and Tony. I always thought that would be the line in the sand for me. Turns out it isn't. I think when something new faces us we just gather our strength and get on with it. If we can deal with things that's great. If we can't that's also ok. We shouldn't ever feel guilty if we meet a barrier we can't surmount.

    Wishing you both much strength. x
  12. christmas

    christmas Registered User

    Apr 27, 2014
    Thank you everyone I have felt so much better in myself because it was something I did not think I could coup with but now know I can ,I am getting there xxxxx Christmas.
  13. Lilac Blossom

    Lilac Blossom Registered User

    Oct 6, 2014
    This was something I thought I could never cope with but when the time came, just had to get on with it and managed ok, so I can understand that you felt proud, quite right too. well done Christmas, and everyone else too xxx

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