My Dad finally admitted that Mum was diagnosed other Alzheimer's last January , although he had mentioned about appointments about a memory clinic but admitted he didn't want to burden us . So I guess officially we have known for about 2 months. Since then we have seen a significant difference in her ability to do anything for herself. My Dad , who is 81 , still with it and active has done an amazing job keeping it together but now he needs support . Fortunately I am very close by and have been there at the drop of a hat when Dad needs me , and I do stop off when I can . I can't help feeling lost with it all though , I am trying to get things in place to support them both , especially Dad but I can't help the feeling of not doing enough . Emotionally my Dad is old school and very rarely would I see him cry and now that's something I see a lot and it's these emotions where I feel helpless.