For the last four years I have lived with and cared for my parents mum has altzheimers dad is blind and diabetic I'm married but my husband works away a lot and can't cope with my mum my kids (20 & 13) try their best but to be honest I would rather they enjoyed life my friends don't really understand I joke about things that happen because if I don't laugh I will spend my day crying. I am constantly having demands thrown at me from all sides am never on my own but I feel so damn lonely I haven't had a break in 4 years and I am going on holiday in a fortnight just for a week mum is going into a care home for a weeks respite dad going to my brothers but I feel so guilty sorry people total pity party tonight just feeling low
Feeling lonely
- Thread starter Debjac
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You have absolutely no need to feel guilty - you are obviously a very caring person - and I hope you will have a very good holiday. You deserve it.
Hi Debjac
Try not to feel guilty! It's really hard work (understatement) being responsible for the care of your parents as well as your immediate family (both my parents have AD). You need a well deserved break, which will enable you to recharge. It is hard to switch off, but it sounds like your parents will be very well cared for whilst you are away, so accept that that will be someone else's responsibility if only for a short while. You deserve to put yourself and your wellbeing first for a change. Enjoy your holiday. Georgina X
Try not to feel guilty! It's really hard work (understatement) being responsible for the care of your parents as well as your immediate family (both my parents have AD). You need a well deserved break, which will enable you to recharge. It is hard to switch off, but it sounds like your parents will be very well cared for whilst you are away, so accept that that will be someone else's responsibility if only for a short while. You deserve to put yourself and your wellbeing first for a change. Enjoy your holiday. Georgina X
You are long overdue a holiday. Don't feel guilty, look at it this way: It has to be done if you are to continue caring. That said have a fantastic holiday and when you come back and see that the world of those you care for has not caved in because you were out of circulation for a while start planning the next holiday. You will get a hunger for it!
