i get annoyed and i have shouted at my husband couldnt he clean up his mess. couldnt he throw the empty packet in the bin, couldnt he put his own clothes away and it was me that ended up crying as he didnt make the link. i know what i say seems trivial but get the sense of what im saying. he used to run the house when i went to work but i do everything now. it was a steep learning curve and i still wake in the morning knowing it will be the same routine. im only partly doing his personal care etc etc but as i was a carer in care home i know whats ahead and not looking forward to it but it needs doing. im not always positive and maybe people think that what i say is not valid as its not as bad as such and such but im doing the best i can that i can empathise. i agree burying yourself in a book is the best way of going to somewhere else on my sofa