I would just like to tell you how things were going, Peter is still going bed and taking all is clothes out and putting them everywhere but it's like you say it not the end of the world so I am keeping calm and letting it go over my head ,I am not stressed anymore I just let him do what he wants, we went town the other day and he really enjoyed it and I did , now I am feeling better in myself I know I will cope bless him it's not his fault. Thank you for all your advice it's been so much help xxx Christmas