Hi everyone, I'm new on here, wish I'd found this sooner really. I've been reading your posts and my heart goes out to every one of you. My mum is only 71 and is dying. She has had advanced vascular dementia and late stage MS for 2 years now. Since January she has been in a care home as we were no longer able to care for her at home. She can't eat, speak, move, has bed sores that won't heal no matter how careful the care team are and severe oral thrush. Basically a tiny frail body with a heart that is somehow still going. She has been on the free list 5 times this year but has kept pulling through. I think this time though she has used all her 9 lives up. I got her a size 6 fluffy nightdress for Christmas (the smallest I could buy) and it drowns her. Probably the most ridiculous thing to push me over the edge but there we are, that was the final straw. She is in so much pain I just want her to go to sleep but I also know she is petrified of dying and so I feel guilty about thinking this. I am supposed to be having 2 nights away with my husband and son and am really worried I won't be there when she needs me. I know I have absolutely gone above and beyond over the past 2 years but there's a part of me that still feels I've not done enough. Thanks for giving me a place to vent and big hugs to anyone else going through this