Went away for 2 days. Spoke to mum when I got back yesterday. Her carer called this morning saying that mum was anxious as she had not heard from me. Spoke to mum and explained I had spoke to her yesterday as soon as I got home. She ended up getting upset and I end up getting cross. Now feeling very guilty as I shouldn't get cross but I don't know how to deal with this. I feel like I can't have any time to myself. Wish I had siblings :-(
oh doghouse - it is difficult! but siblings are not always a help. I am my mums main carer (working full time) with a sister and a brother who have very little to do with her (in comparison to me). it was never intentional for me to take control but these things happen. she is very dependent on me - and I know what you mean about time to yourself.
my mum keeps a diary and she writes down things like when someone visits or rings (sometimes she has to be reminded to write them down), so if you could get her to maybe record things like this, then ask her to read it to you when you see/ speak to her? without mums diary she would be even more lost than she is now.
I know these things don't work for everyone, but this is the way my mum copes currently.
I wish you well, and please try not to feel guilty, we all have our limits sometimes, it is difficult