I have taken some time to read a few of the other posts on this and other sections of this forum and realise there are others and also very young people who act as carers for whoever in their family has dementia. Some of the youngsters are still at school. My mum cannot be looked after at home so she is in a care home which is the best thing for her and they meet her needs. My mums dementia I believe is getting worse and she is becoming very argumentative and controlling. Instead of thinking of her I am mainly thinking of myself and how this is affecting me. My friend that I have spoken to all say that I need to take a break from my mum or I will become ill with the stress. I cannot make my mum understand that I do care about her. She thinks I hate her which is not true. Yes I do not like the way she is controlling me but deep down I do care and want the best for her but the dementia is driving wedge between us which may not be able to be fixed and at her age (92) she probably does not have a great deal of time left, but at the moment as things stand if I try to bridge the wedge it will make matters worse so I keep away and that doesn't make it any easier either because my mum thinks I am keeping away because I don't care.