Feeling guilty...

RKelley

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May 14, 2015
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For about 18 months Dad's had memory problems (alongside some other medical issues) & it became something we could no longer ignore. A CT scan revealed narrow vessel brain disease & vascular dementia.
I feel helpless. I can't even begin to imagine how he's feeling. We've never been a family that have discussed feelings & now I'm beginning to feel like it could be too late.
Dad's started the PoA process & the necessity side of things while he still has capacity.
I feel so guilty, worrying about my own emotions. Does anyone have any advice on how to approach him? I live away & we've only discussed his diagnosis over the phone. Tomorrow is the first time I'll see him & I don't want to distress him by saying the wrong thing or crying.
Any ideas on an ice breaker?
 

patsy56

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Jan 14, 2015
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Fife Scotland
Sounds rk no welcome to TP I can only say play it by ear if he broaches subject then talk take one step at a time he may be feeling the same
 

RKelley

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May 14, 2015
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It's like the elephant in the room... All I've done is cry without warning!
I don't want to make things worse but in another breath I don't want him to feel like he can't talk about it
 

Kjn

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Jul 27, 2013
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Greet like you usually do ?
For me it'd be a big smile and a hug , then change tack...put the kettle on?
 

RKelley

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May 14, 2015
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Thank you. We're meeting at a football game.
Hoping it goes ok. Just very scared of what's to come.
Thank you everyone xxx
 

Kjn

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You'll be ok, plenty distraction there! Just wear your 'I'm positive I'm fine head' tomorrow, we are with you x
 

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