1. RKelley

    RKelley Registered User

    May 14, 2015
    4
    For about 18 months Dad's had memory problems (alongside some other medical issues) & it became something we could no longer ignore. A CT scan revealed narrow vessel brain disease & vascular dementia.
    I feel helpless. I can't even begin to imagine how he's feeling. We've never been a family that have discussed feelings & now I'm beginning to feel like it could be too late.
    Dad's started the PoA process & the necessity side of things while he still has capacity.
    I feel so guilty, worrying about my own emotions. Does anyone have any advice on how to approach him? I live away & we've only discussed his diagnosis over the phone. Tomorrow is the first time I'll see him & I don't want to distress him by saying the wrong thing or crying.
    Any ideas on an ice breaker?
     
  2. patsy56

    patsy56 Registered User

    Jan 14, 2015
    840
    Fife Scotland
    Sounds rk no welcome to TP I can only say play it by ear if he broaches subject then talk take one step at a time he may be feeling the same
     
  3. RKelley

    RKelley Registered User

    May 14, 2015
    4
    It's like the elephant in the room... All I've done is cry without warning!
    I don't want to make things worse but in another breath I don't want him to feel like he can't talk about it
     
  4. Kjn

    Kjn Registered User

    Jul 27, 2013
    5,835
    Greet like you usually do ?
    For me it'd be a big smile and a hug , then change tack...put the kettle on?
     
  5. Grey Lad

    Grey Lad Registered User

    Sep 12, 2014
    5,737
    North East Lincs
    Can't think of anything better than Kjn has suggested.
     
  6. Spamar

    Spamar Registered User

    Oct 5, 2013
    6,854
    Suffolk
    Normal greeting. Let him bring subject up.
     
  7. RKelley

    RKelley Registered User

    May 14, 2015
    4
    Thank you. We're meeting at a football game.
    Hoping it goes ok. Just very scared of what's to come.
    Thank you everyone xxx
     
  8. Kjn

    Kjn Registered User

    Jul 27, 2013
    5,835
    You'll be ok, plenty distraction there! Just wear your 'I'm positive I'm fine head' tomorrow, we are with you x
     

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