My mum was diagnosed with Alzheimer's 3 years ago, throughout this time I have cared for her along with carers at her home. I didn't live with mum, but called in every day, during my lunch breaks, before and after work, to assist as much as possible, doing the shopping, washing, cleaning etc, as well as hold down a full time job, and have my grandchildren to stay as much as possible. My brother lives away, so he hasn't been able to support me very much.
In between the carers visits, I would find mum in bed at all times of the day, or find her wandering about in soiled clothing and would have to wash her as best as possible before the carers next visit, and getting back to work. I constantly worried about her during the night when she was on her own.
I made the decision to get her in to respite in December, as I felt that I needed a break also. Mum settled in lovely and I knew that this would be the best option for her, being cared for 24hrs a day and having stimulation throughout the day.
When I visit mum in the care home she looks very sad sometimes, but other times she looks happy. I wish I could explain to her the reason why I took her there.
Why do I now feel so sad and guilty that I made this decision? I am going through all the financial assessment processes which is stressing me so much. I have got to sell mum's house to fund her care.
Sometimes I wish I hadn't made this decision.
In between the carers visits, I would find mum in bed at all times of the day, or find her wandering about in soiled clothing and would have to wash her as best as possible before the carers next visit, and getting back to work. I constantly worried about her during the night when she was on her own.
I made the decision to get her in to respite in December, as I felt that I needed a break also. Mum settled in lovely and I knew that this would be the best option for her, being cared for 24hrs a day and having stimulation throughout the day.
When I visit mum in the care home she looks very sad sometimes, but other times she looks happy. I wish I could explain to her the reason why I took her there.
Why do I now feel so sad and guilty that I made this decision? I am going through all the financial assessment processes which is stressing me so much. I have got to sell mum's house to fund her care.
Sometimes I wish I hadn't made this decision.