I know my husband of 45 years, who was diagnosed with dementia nine months ago, does not mean to be difficult and hostile and it doesn’t happen very often. I don’t think I am a stupid woman without empathy. So why do I feel so dumped and rejected when he is unpleasant to me? I feel I am getting to know this new person and try to be buoyant, but then have the wind knocked from my sails. Does anyone else feel so inadequate?