My husband Tony was diagnosed with vascular dementia just over a year ago although his symptoms have gone on for much longer. I look in on the forum frequently and am thankful for all the knowledge I have gained from you all. In the past 3 months the disease has progressed and we have had the most awful 10 days and I'm not coping very well. I was out for 30 minutes last week and came back to find he had drunk concentrate fabric conditioner........thinking it was lemon drink! Our G.P called the poisons unit who confirmed that it was a corrosive toxin and advised taking him to A & E. We were there for 6 hours while they monitored him ........thankfully no harm done and I've locked the cleaning stuff away. Yesterday I was spending the afternoon with my friend and I arranged for family to be with him for most of the time I was out. My daughter had to pop out for 20 minutes and in that time my neighbour found him crying in the garden having been searching for me and saying that he couldn't find me and that someone had taken me away. I had left big notes all over the house saying where I was, who I was with and what time I would be home. He was in such a state and had had an anxiety attack, which is something new. He follows me around a lot now and is fine when I am with him. I am so sad and feel guilty that I wasn't home. I don't know what to do for the best.