On the past few visits to see my Mum at the nursing home who is in late/severe stage of Vascular Dementia I have noticed that after giving her thickened drink she seems to be coughing badly also uncomfortable with very chesty breathing. When I mentioned to the nurse about my concern again about this I got the usual kind of answer "oh is she" in other words this is the norm and as long as we can still feed her etc..... After feeling so frustrated with this kind of feedback and lack of compassion for me as her daughter I decided to contact her doctor direct at his surgery. I am very disappointed to say that after 3 calls and being promised 3 call backs to discuss my concerns and also the prognosis of her illness at this late stage I have still not managed to speak with her doctor. I know they are very busy but once your relative is in a nursing home are we pushed aside? There is no doctor at my mum's nursing home and surely if she was in hospital I would be updated. If my mum had cancer or another terminal illness would communication be different? I would appreciate any feedback. Thank you x