It's been just over a month since my mum went into a care home, after being sectioned, which was so very traumatic. I'm not sure if I've processed everything that has happened over the past years which included volatility, neediness and abuse towards me, but now Mum is in the home I feel so guilty and sad that she'll never see her lovely house again or be my Mum again, who I think I was hoping to have back (irrationally). I feel I could have dealt with things differently, even though I know I tried everything to get help, I just feel like I didn't understand what was happening at all looking back on it, and feel I didn't deal with the abuse well. When I see my Mum she still looks like my Mum and she is calmer now after all these terribly sad years, where I have been angry, confused, resentful and downright exhausted but I cannot seem to get things right in my mind as she's not my Mum. I went to her house yesterday to sort out post and now I feel very upset. I just wanted to share this as I feel so alone. I do sometimes have a giggle with Mum now in the care home as she's on medication and seems calmer and I do keep telling myself that she is safe from harm, but I cannot shake this awfully sad feeling off. It is early days and a transitional period I suspect. Any thoughts or positive feedback would be really lovely thank you.