Good morning all . Maybe I am over reacting but both my sister and I are feeling a bit upset and confused . At the meeting to assess our Mum in hospital, it was stated that the best place for her is an EMI unit . We have found one, its a nice as one can be and close to where she lived with my step Dad Ken which means that visting will be easy for him . She is not allowed to go home but is staying in hospital until a place becomes available for her in the unit , there was one but someone else got in as a priority > Mum seems quite settled at the hospital, its a small unit and they are only at half acpacity so have lots of time for the patients which is good . Kem will continue to live at their flat and seems to have accepted that Mum cant come home , we still ring him regularly and care about him which is more than his own family do ! However, both my sister and I had phone calls over the weekend from Ken asking us to go to the flat and clear Mums stuff out . We had already discussed with Ken re taking some of Mums bits and bobs to the EMI unit when she moves in so that hopefully familiar things may just help her to settle but now he wants us to take everything . I live a long way from them but my sister is in the doorstep and went to see him yesterday , he already had all her photos bagged up , all her clothes in bin bags , all her toiletries in bags and is saying that he wants to start afresh ( he is 87 ) with no reminders of Mum . I have told my sister that I think we should inform his family and that they must come and try to sort this out , they have done nothing whilst Mum has been in hospital , never been to see her or visted their Dad and I really think that they must come and have a chat with him , there must be a reason for this, he must be upset and depressed but surely, it wont do any good to get rid of everything that reminds him of our Mum ?
Love Kate
Love Kate