I hope it's ok to post this as I feel it's bit self pitying and I'm sure people on here are having a much worse time than me. I just feel like my sister and I are struggling with no where to turn to at the moment. We had suspected that my Dad had signs of dementia for a couple of years but my Mum would brush it off with excuses. Unfortunately my Mum passed away four months ago after a few weeks in hospital. This is when we realised just how bad my Dad was and how much my Mum did to help him day to day. he kept forgetting where the car was parked and parking in random places. He couldn't remember what the doctors had said about my Mum and even told several people she had died and wanted to go to the funeral directors (this was several days before she did pass away). After the funeral he seemed to be coping better and we tried to get him to see the doctor but it was difficult to get him there. Things were taken out of hands when he called us one night hallucinating and delirious. He hadn't been sleeping either. He was admitted to hospital for 9 weeks whilst the delirium subsided. The whole time he was in there he thought he was back at work. He was formally diagnosed with Vascular dementia and advised not to drive (which is still a source of anger to him). He was allowed home with Carers as he could barely make a cup of tea without prompts, but they stopped coming after a week as they said he was independent. That was it , we have no details of if he will have follow up appointments about his dementia. He has been home 3 weeks and calls us constantly. he is worried about the garden even though we have a gardener go in ( he accused him of stealing tools but they were neatly stacked in the shed!). He seems anxious all the time and cries a lot, angry when he can't work things out and generally lonely. My sister and I both work everyday and neither of us lives closer than 30 minutes away. We are trying to see him as often as possible but it is never enough and we don't know what to do for the best. I'm sure this is all very common to lots of people but we are at a loss as to how to help him. I feel tearful all the time and dread yet another phone call