@MaNaAk I went down dads on Friday and my brother has ripped all the carpets up and plonked them in the hall. It was horrible even though I knew he was going to start clearing things. He has even put a bed in there that he appears to have slept on. I have said a last goodbye to the bungalow now and I won't go again as it holds too many memories and I want to keep dads place in my mind as it was when he was there. It looks like a tip now and I don't want to remember it like that as it is very upsetting. I had to go for a long drive after I left just to clear my mind,. It is my birthday soon and I will take some flowers to the church instead because both mum and dad are there now and it will be nicer.
It's funny how he can spend so much time there now when he could never spend more than ten minutes there when dad was still here. He was famous for his 'I can't stay more than a few minutes' because he was always going somewhere else. Even my mum called him 'the minute man'
I remember dads 88th birthday, when brother and SIL breezed in and gave dad his present but couldn't stay more than a few minutes because they had 'another birthday' to go to. I am sick of them, I really am.
There I have had a rant and maybe you should do the same. I am fed up with being polite and tactful just to keep the peace and it does you no good in the end and leaves you feeling bad.
Big hugs for you
@MaNaAk and stay strong.