Hello,
My grandfather has dementia. He was diagnosed 10 months ago but to be honest the signs were there for about a year before. He's 94 and until last year he was always fit and healthy and his mind was as sharp as a knife! His hobby was repairing clocks in his shed. It was the one place no one was allowed to go in but I was! Everything would be in order and he could put his hand on the smallest tool without any thought. Now his shed is abandoned and he struggles to find the paper beside his chair. As for us, he doesn't remember my husband of 19 years or my 16 yr old daughter. As for me, he has to be reminded who I am. It's heartbreaking.
My 91 year old grandmother is his carer. They live on the edge of a small village 2 hours drive away from me and I'm the nearest relative. We go down there every 4 weeks and my husband and daughter do the garden or any odd jobs that need doing and I try to support my grandmother by chatting to her or sorting any paperwork/advice she needs. She says I do more than enough but it doesn't feel that way. I have sorted and Alert card so I get a call if anything happens to either of them.
I feel I should be doing more, but I don't know what. I lost my maternal Grt Grandfather to dementia 21 years ago. He had his son and his family nearby so I didn't have much to do other than just visit him. Now I feel like I should be doing something but I don't know what. It doesn't help I'm disabled myself and my husband is my full time carer! That's why he does the physical work and I try and do paperwork etc.
I'm after some advice from those who've been there. I've cared for dementia patients in homes so I know what to expect with regards to my grandfather. I just don't know legal stuff etc.
Any advice would be gladly received.
Thanks
My grandfather has dementia. He was diagnosed 10 months ago but to be honest the signs were there for about a year before. He's 94 and until last year he was always fit and healthy and his mind was as sharp as a knife! His hobby was repairing clocks in his shed. It was the one place no one was allowed to go in but I was! Everything would be in order and he could put his hand on the smallest tool without any thought. Now his shed is abandoned and he struggles to find the paper beside his chair. As for us, he doesn't remember my husband of 19 years or my 16 yr old daughter. As for me, he has to be reminded who I am. It's heartbreaking.
My 91 year old grandmother is his carer. They live on the edge of a small village 2 hours drive away from me and I'm the nearest relative. We go down there every 4 weeks and my husband and daughter do the garden or any odd jobs that need doing and I try to support my grandmother by chatting to her or sorting any paperwork/advice she needs. She says I do more than enough but it doesn't feel that way. I have sorted and Alert card so I get a call if anything happens to either of them.
I feel I should be doing more, but I don't know what. I lost my maternal Grt Grandfather to dementia 21 years ago. He had his son and his family nearby so I didn't have much to do other than just visit him. Now I feel like I should be doing something but I don't know what. It doesn't help I'm disabled myself and my husband is my full time carer! That's why he does the physical work and I try and do paperwork etc.
I'm after some advice from those who've been there. I've cared for dementia patients in homes so I know what to expect with regards to my grandfather. I just don't know legal stuff etc.
Any advice would be gladly received.
Thanks