I feel as if everything you read online points to the fact there’s help out there to stop financial abuse of people with dementia yet the reality is there isn’t .
My brother has taken advantage of my mothers vulnerable state he got her to transfer all her savings into his account she did not have the mental capacity to know what she was doing and it was only two weeks before she went into care.
The finance team picked up on this and asked him to put the amount back into my mothers account as it was deprivation of asset’s he agreed he would ( he never did )
When I found out about this and informed them they said they couldn’t do anything other then ask him to put the money back and I should contact the police .
I finally did contact the police and reported him I had lots of evidence via text messages pointing to the fact he’d taken the money to hide it so my mother wouldn’t pay for her care home fees ( so he told me at the time )
My mother was extremely Ill and qualified for CHC funding in the end so didn’t have to continue paying for fees.
My brother is now stating the money transferred was a gift to him ( my mother has never given either of us large amounts of money before )
The police investigation is on going but it’s been months now and if truth be told I feel so let down by the whole system and I’m sure he’ll get away with it as for some reason they seem to believe his lies.
The whole family have fallen out with him and are shocked and upset by his actions yet he shows no remorse.
Covid restrictions did not help the situation the LPA was delayed months and only came into effect after my brother had taken the large sum of money.
We are both attorneys and he continues to take out large amounts of cash as gifts he has told the OPG my mother would always spend this on his children etc
I’m just powerless to stop him as it’s his word against mine my mother was quite tight with her money and I know for a fact she’d stopped sending gifts a few years ago.
It’s all such a mess and I feel as if I’ve let my mother down which is heartbreaking for me.
I just wanted to warn others , don’t be as naive as I was I thought the council could force him to put back the money but that’s just not the case.
Money really is the root of all evil I would never of thought my brother capable of this it’s so heartbreaking as we were so close .
My brother has taken advantage of my mothers vulnerable state he got her to transfer all her savings into his account she did not have the mental capacity to know what she was doing and it was only two weeks before she went into care.
The finance team picked up on this and asked him to put the amount back into my mothers account as it was deprivation of asset’s he agreed he would ( he never did )
When I found out about this and informed them they said they couldn’t do anything other then ask him to put the money back and I should contact the police .
I finally did contact the police and reported him I had lots of evidence via text messages pointing to the fact he’d taken the money to hide it so my mother wouldn’t pay for her care home fees ( so he told me at the time )
My mother was extremely Ill and qualified for CHC funding in the end so didn’t have to continue paying for fees.
My brother is now stating the money transferred was a gift to him ( my mother has never given either of us large amounts of money before )
The police investigation is on going but it’s been months now and if truth be told I feel so let down by the whole system and I’m sure he’ll get away with it as for some reason they seem to believe his lies.
The whole family have fallen out with him and are shocked and upset by his actions yet he shows no remorse.
Covid restrictions did not help the situation the LPA was delayed months and only came into effect after my brother had taken the large sum of money.
We are both attorneys and he continues to take out large amounts of cash as gifts he has told the OPG my mother would always spend this on his children etc
I’m just powerless to stop him as it’s his word against mine my mother was quite tight with her money and I know for a fact she’d stopped sending gifts a few years ago.
It’s all such a mess and I feel as if I’ve let my mother down which is heartbreaking for me.
I just wanted to warn others , don’t be as naive as I was I thought the council could force him to put back the money but that’s just not the case.
Money really is the root of all evil I would never of thought my brother capable of this it’s so heartbreaking as we were so close .
