Mum had a planned visit today from two OT support workers. I'd got to her house a couple of hours before after my 50 miles on the motorway, as I do every other day. I'd made sure she was feeling ok, shopped for her, made lunch, cleaned up, emptied bins etc etc by the time the two ladies arrived. They were lovely with her. One spoke to mum for 30 minutes whilst the other talked to me...well she let me do most of the offloading! Things have been building up in my head for weeks.
After they've gone, mum goes into full on verbal attack mode - I've brought them around to spy on her to get her put away in a home. This is not new, but my reaction was. I've just had enough.......
I told mum she was lucky to have me, I'd given up my job to care for her, moved 50 miles away from my own kids and put my whole life on hold just so that she DOESN'T have to go into care. Then I burst into tears, picked up my coat, walked out the door and drove off, shaking like a leaf. I've sobbed all the way home and feel like the worst daughter ever. How do other people cope with feeling like everything you do is never enough.......I want to scream!!
After they've gone, mum goes into full on verbal attack mode - I've brought them around to spy on her to get her put away in a home. This is not new, but my reaction was. I've just had enough.......
I told mum she was lucky to have me, I'd given up my job to care for her, moved 50 miles away from my own kids and put my whole life on hold just so that she DOESN'T have to go into care. Then I burst into tears, picked up my coat, walked out the door and drove off, shaking like a leaf. I've sobbed all the way home and feel like the worst daughter ever. How do other people cope with feeling like everything you do is never enough.......I want to scream!!