I have been to visit my Mum this morning at her nursing home, she is in late/severe stage vascular dementia (will be 5 years this May) since diagnosed following a stroke. Firstly I still find it hard to believe that she has been in the Nursing Home 5 years and today I took her some roses for Mothers Day and a card. Today there was nothing there at all, she kept falling asleep, did not know me at all, could not smile as all facial muscles seem to have gone and when eyes were open just kept staring in to space but no focus. I held her hand but nothing back from her and it just seemed a lot worse today than ever before. The carer did tell me though that Mum is still being fed and eating well (no major weight loss), they give her thickened drinks which she does keep coughing still after it. What is confusing is Mum seems to have lost every single ability now except for swallowing when being fed and I just wonder is this the last thing to go and will it be like this for years, so upsetting as I left today feeling so empty and sad for my mum. The carer also said my mum was crying this week. I post on here for feedback in the hope that somebody who has been through or going through this will understand as I do not have that much support x
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