My Mum passed away in the nursing home. Dad was allowed 30 minutes with her on her final day but I wasn’t allowed to see her. I stood in the car park waiting for Dad to come out and expected him to be heartbroken but he was quite buoyant. I know I am being incredibly selfish but I feel resentful that Dad is telling everyone about that visit with great relish and doesn’t consider that I didn’t get the chance to say goodbye and thank her for everything. Mum’s decline was so rapid when she was isolated from her family. I thought I’d get the chance to see her one last time. I’ve been sorting everything out for the funeral, mostly on my own, I feel so drained and heartbroken. Mum was my best friend. It was always me and her against the world. I’m going to see her in the chapel of rest tomorrow, I’ve asked for the casket to be closed because I’m not brave enough to actually see her. This isn’t how I wanted to say goodbye. I know I sound like a spoilt little girl but I needed to “talk” about my feelings of loss. Dad has always been taken care of by the women in his life, I will continue to do the same as I love him dearly. I just wish he could understand that I’m grieving too and it’s been hard taking care of all the arrangements on my own.