I live with my two teenage children and my mother and father who are in their 80's. I was living in a flat with my children but had to put it on the market as have a schizophrenic neighbour who was harassing me.
Stress due to neighbour's behaviour and failure of Social Services and police to rehouse my neighbour has taken it's toll on my mother who together with my father got me to write endless emails. Added to this she had the stress of having to apply for right to remain in UK after 50 years of living here.
She has become increasingly aggressive and vitriolic towards me over the years telling me that I'm a hopeless idiot, a cretin, disorganised, useless, no authority with my children.
She has always been very independent and looks after my father who is partially sighted and has speech aphasia. She is increasingly controlling and goes through our drawers deciding what she wants to throw out or often breaks things in the process. Now we are in lockdown she refuses to let anyone else do the shopping or order online and is not taking recommended corona virus safety precautions. I am eating less so that she doesn't have to visit so many shops but this will not help me of I catch the virus. Just before lockdown I bought some tinned food which I hid at my flat. Wanted to bring them back home and she was furious saying she would throw them out on the street so my son and I bought 10 tins back and hid them in a secret space at the back of his desk which we fortunately discovered. I really don't know what to do. My dad is in despair but refuses to admit that she is mentally ill. He just says she is ill informed about corona virus. I have ordered some fruit and veg which will arrive on the 7th April. I am terrified of her and keep having panic attacks. I share a room with my daughter who has nightmares and shouts things like"No granny, no! Stop! Why are you doing that?" My children are furious every time I respond to my mum. My son rightly says to me to just ignore her and shut up but everytime she is nasty but I either break down in tears or shout and swear at her (I know it's awful but I still am desperate for her approval). Yesterday she said I would get a nasty shock after she died implying that she would write me out of her will. I'm sorry to say I stuck two fingers up at her like a rebellious teenager. I've decided to stay out of her way and not eat with the family. My kids gulp down meals in 10mins and rush back upstairs. They are spending virtually all day on their mobiles. They are getting on with homework but also obsessively following the news and mainly eating biscuits and sweets which they stocked up on before lockdown. They are reluctant to go our because they think it will encourage my mum to go out more. They are looking so pale. I am really worried for everyone's mental and physical health. Let's see how today goes.
Stress due to neighbour's behaviour and failure of Social Services and police to rehouse my neighbour has taken it's toll on my mother who together with my father got me to write endless emails. Added to this she had the stress of having to apply for right to remain in UK after 50 years of living here.
She has become increasingly aggressive and vitriolic towards me over the years telling me that I'm a hopeless idiot, a cretin, disorganised, useless, no authority with my children.
She has always been very independent and looks after my father who is partially sighted and has speech aphasia. She is increasingly controlling and goes through our drawers deciding what she wants to throw out or often breaks things in the process. Now we are in lockdown she refuses to let anyone else do the shopping or order online and is not taking recommended corona virus safety precautions. I am eating less so that she doesn't have to visit so many shops but this will not help me of I catch the virus. Just before lockdown I bought some tinned food which I hid at my flat. Wanted to bring them back home and she was furious saying she would throw them out on the street so my son and I bought 10 tins back and hid them in a secret space at the back of his desk which we fortunately discovered. I really don't know what to do. My dad is in despair but refuses to admit that she is mentally ill. He just says she is ill informed about corona virus. I have ordered some fruit and veg which will arrive on the 7th April. I am terrified of her and keep having panic attacks. I share a room with my daughter who has nightmares and shouts things like"No granny, no! Stop! Why are you doing that?" My children are furious every time I respond to my mum. My son rightly says to me to just ignore her and shut up but everytime she is nasty but I either break down in tears or shout and swear at her (I know it's awful but I still am desperate for her approval). Yesterday she said I would get a nasty shock after she died implying that she would write me out of her will. I'm sorry to say I stuck two fingers up at her like a rebellious teenager. I've decided to stay out of her way and not eat with the family. My kids gulp down meals in 10mins and rush back upstairs. They are spending virtually all day on their mobiles. They are getting on with homework but also obsessively following the news and mainly eating biscuits and sweets which they stocked up on before lockdown. They are reluctant to go our because they think it will encourage my mum to go out more. They are looking so pale. I am really worried for everyone's mental and physical health. Let's see how today goes.
