I am really fed up and completely cheesed off that I can never switch off and relax and and can't sleep, hence, I am typing this in the middle of the night.
I am torn in two all the time trying to juggle family commitments, work and visiting mum in the care home. I am trying to take some ME time out and feel so guilty because mum depends on me so much for companionship. However, she is becoming really hard to visit and is continually packing up all her belongings, hiding things, losing things, and tidying everything away and accusing me of all sorts.
Mum is completely anti social and freezes everyone out other than me. Yet when I visit her she insults me, accuses me of never visiting etc and her memory is virtually non existent. When I go to the loo using her en suite bathroom, she leaves the bedroom and forgets I am in the adjoining room. She insults people when I take her on outings, and calls the staff and residents rotten. Everything is a problem from the meals, to the residents, to the staff etc.. nothing is ever good enough or right and I am becoming a punch bag for her to vent out her frustrations verbally on every visit.
I am fed up of the problems I have to face day in and out, week in and out. Mum regularly refuses showers, having her feet attended to, and is getting smelly and awkward. She hates her room, her care home and everything, and continually packs up wanting to leave. This has been a regular pattern for ages now but I am getting so fed up of the problems. She won't let me unpack her stuff again and it becomes a battle.
Mum is in denial of everything and refuses to wear incontinence pads and gets aggressive when I suggest it, so we have occasional toilet accidents when I do take her out and its like taking a newly potty trained child out, I am on edge all the time trying to find disabled toilets. Mum won't wear hearing her hearing aids and thinks she can hear okay, and although her mobility is quite bad, she won't go in a wheelchair so I am always stressed out trying to help her walk about safely without falling. Nothing is easy, and mum seems to make things twice as bad by not cooperating with things.
I know I am moaning, but, sometimes it all gets too much and I feel I have too much to cope with emotionally... I have just had enough and needed to let off some steam.
Thanks for any advice and for letting me off load. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I am torn in two all the time trying to juggle family commitments, work and visiting mum in the care home. I am trying to take some ME time out and feel so guilty because mum depends on me so much for companionship. However, she is becoming really hard to visit and is continually packing up all her belongings, hiding things, losing things, and tidying everything away and accusing me of all sorts.
Mum is completely anti social and freezes everyone out other than me. Yet when I visit her she insults me, accuses me of never visiting etc and her memory is virtually non existent. When I go to the loo using her en suite bathroom, she leaves the bedroom and forgets I am in the adjoining room. She insults people when I take her on outings, and calls the staff and residents rotten. Everything is a problem from the meals, to the residents, to the staff etc.. nothing is ever good enough or right and I am becoming a punch bag for her to vent out her frustrations verbally on every visit.
I am fed up of the problems I have to face day in and out, week in and out. Mum regularly refuses showers, having her feet attended to, and is getting smelly and awkward. She hates her room, her care home and everything, and continually packs up wanting to leave. This has been a regular pattern for ages now but I am getting so fed up of the problems. She won't let me unpack her stuff again and it becomes a battle.
Mum is in denial of everything and refuses to wear incontinence pads and gets aggressive when I suggest it, so we have occasional toilet accidents when I do take her out and its like taking a newly potty trained child out, I am on edge all the time trying to find disabled toilets. Mum won't wear hearing her hearing aids and thinks she can hear okay, and although her mobility is quite bad, she won't go in a wheelchair so I am always stressed out trying to help her walk about safely without falling. Nothing is easy, and mum seems to make things twice as bad by not cooperating with things.
I know I am moaning, but, sometimes it all gets too much and I feel I have too much to cope with emotionally... I have just had enough and needed to let off some steam.
Thanks for any advice and for letting me off load. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx