Hello DT people,
I wonder if anyone can advise the best way to deal with this problem. Even though I have a parent in the end stage of Alzheimers I am a bit at a loss as to what to do to help my father in law and his family. Short story. Ninety year old FIL living alone since wife died. Has coped reasonably well. Since Covid - seems to be really struggling. A few things have seemed odd to me recently. Namely:
Struggling to use basic house appliances like microwave and washing machine
Getting the wrong end of the stick when remembering a family event (ie remembering something differently or adding in something that hasn't happened)
Losing items frequently like wallet and then becoming obsessed with people being to obtain his bank details and drain his account. Wallet later turns up in a drawer.
The most worrying one to me - cornering a neighbour to ask her to buy some tins of soup (own cupboards full) because it was New Years Day tomorrow (isn't obviously) and all the shops will be shut.
Confusion about what is in own house IE downstairs toilet "I don't have one down here"
Burned food pan discovered in bin
He has carer input (limited in my opinion to 1 hour per day) is extremely anxious about everything. Is struggling with using incontinence aids as can't remember which was they go into pants - even though family member has been through the packs and marked every one with a line.
This individual is extremely stubborn and reluctant to consider residential care or additional care visits. Very lonely and isolated in his home. Really touchy about memory as his late wife suffered from Alziehmers although he is in complete denial over this, to the extent that he wouldn't allow her medication for the condition. Is always a bit dismissive of my mums condition as makes remarks like "A least I still have my sense" etc. I can't see his agreeing to a trip to the memory clinic - when his daughter suggested he was having problems with his memory he got VERY angry. He is getting angry and frustrated a lot over small things.
Close family very reluctant to tackle this..
What can I do to help?
My mums case was different although she hated the memory clinic and got very upset and anxious about attending over the years - she would comply. Different type of personality...
I wonder if anyone can advise the best way to deal with this problem. Even though I have a parent in the end stage of Alzheimers I am a bit at a loss as to what to do to help my father in law and his family. Short story. Ninety year old FIL living alone since wife died. Has coped reasonably well. Since Covid - seems to be really struggling. A few things have seemed odd to me recently. Namely:
Struggling to use basic house appliances like microwave and washing machine
Getting the wrong end of the stick when remembering a family event (ie remembering something differently or adding in something that hasn't happened)
Losing items frequently like wallet and then becoming obsessed with people being to obtain his bank details and drain his account. Wallet later turns up in a drawer.
The most worrying one to me - cornering a neighbour to ask her to buy some tins of soup (own cupboards full) because it was New Years Day tomorrow (isn't obviously) and all the shops will be shut.
Confusion about what is in own house IE downstairs toilet "I don't have one down here"
Burned food pan discovered in bin
He has carer input (limited in my opinion to 1 hour per day) is extremely anxious about everything. Is struggling with using incontinence aids as can't remember which was they go into pants - even though family member has been through the packs and marked every one with a line.
This individual is extremely stubborn and reluctant to consider residential care or additional care visits. Very lonely and isolated in his home. Really touchy about memory as his late wife suffered from Alziehmers although he is in complete denial over this, to the extent that he wouldn't allow her medication for the condition. Is always a bit dismissive of my mums condition as makes remarks like "A least I still have my sense" etc. I can't see his agreeing to a trip to the memory clinic - when his daughter suggested he was having problems with his memory he got VERY angry. He is getting angry and frustrated a lot over small things.
Close family very reluctant to tackle this..
What can I do to help?
My mums case was different although she hated the memory clinic and got very upset and anxious about attending over the years - she would comply. Different type of personality...