Update on father-in-law F-i-L was asleep when my OH and I went to see him yesterday evening. After a frustrating day trying to find out what is going on with him, I was eventually told that the physios are having difficulty mobilising him. So he is currently bed-bound and incontinent both ways (though he does have an indwelling catheter). He is medically stable though, meaning that (as I understand it) he is no longer reliant on IV antibiotics. There is some discussion about moving him to a physiotherapy unit, and possibly to a community hospital in due course. At the moment I cannot see him coming home at all, certainly not unless he recovers some mobility, enough to enable him to go to the toilet independently. We're trying to play things down for M-i-L, who (understandably) is very frightened by the whole situation. Yesterday, I had to dissuade her from walking up to the hospital. It's at least 3 miles away, and she would not have a snowball's chance in hell of getting there safely. Thankfully, another B-i-L was able to take her to the hospital to see him yesterday. My OH and I are away over the next 2 days, as we're attending my aunt's funeral in another part of the country. My aunt was 93 and died peacefully, not unexpectedly, about 3 weeks ago. I just wish things did not happen all at one time! Thankfully, my S-i-L (not the undermining one) is around to visit F-i-L and look after M-i-L, and I'm sure will give us updates as and when things develop.