DMac, I don't feel you are judging or being inappropriate in any way, no worries, please. I hadn't considered what you said, about issues being interconnected and it being difficult to separate them. I think that I am better now at compartmentalizing things than I used to be (thanks a lot, dementia) but I do have a lot of difficulty with things bleeding over, especially emotions. I have no interest in bungee jumping. I think I'm too old for that; it looks like it would hurt and give me a headache. Or maybe I've always been too old for it! I meant it when I said this job looked great on paper: part time, office setting, easy commute, I'm qualified, it would be a way to get back into the job market after many years of not working, didn't have to look for it, they would be more than reasonably understanding about a dementia emergency, et cetera. I have been as clear as I can be to them, that I am conflicted and uncertain. I'm waiting to hear about salary and hours. The pay may be the sticking point, actually. I've worked there in the past at a low hourly wage, which was fine when it was only a few hours once a year. For a longer commitment, I want more money. Since they may want me to work there for longer than just the 6-8 weeks needed to cover my friend's leave (in a different position that interests me more and would be more challenging), I am reluctant to agree to the lower rate of pay now, feeling that this would lock me in forever, if that makes any sense. The person who sets the salaries is not the friend in question and is, er, frugal. While I may not be able to refuse my friend personally, I may be able to say, no, I won't do this, because you are not going to pay me enough money to make it worth my time. And then the person who refuses to pay me a decent wage can be the bad guy, not me. I hope? It's just all so weirdly distressing. But back to Dmac's job interview. What you say about the job itself sounds good, especially the good people and good employer and good pension. How is the location/commute? You sound uncertain about jumping in full-time right away, or maybe I'm reading into your post. I can definitely understand that.