We moved fil into care home 7 weeks ago because of aggressive behaviour to other tenants at the warden controlled flat he lived in and he really liked it from day one. He has settled really well apart from two issues. The first is he doesn't seem to want us there when we visit we have tried taking him out for afternoon tea or to our house for the afternoon as we had always done. We have tried staying in the home but he doesn't respond when we try to talk to him all the while asking are we going now. He is very happy to see his granddaughter when she takes him out on a Sunday afternoon but with my husband and myself he is very distant. Could it be that he feels abandoned even though he is happy in the care home.
The second problem is he keeps asking about getting money he thinks there is a cash machine in the home but that no one will tell him where it is. It doesn't work telling him he doesn't need money. He has £40 in is wallet which is more than the home likes but they realise that if we take it from him it may cause him more distress.
Has anyone any idea what we can do?
Thanks for any advice.
Vera
The second problem is he keeps asking about getting money he thinks there is a cash machine in the home but that no one will tell him where it is. It doesn't work telling him he doesn't need money. He has £40 in is wallet which is more than the home likes but they realise that if we take it from him it may cause him more distress.
Has anyone any idea what we can do?
Thanks for any advice.
Vera