I think I have reached a point of saying a grateful and heartfelt farewell to TP and TP'ers at this point. Like many I found TP when I needed it most, but put off joining for far too long. If this applies to you then join straight away! I have learned so much that I could not possibly summarise my learning from you all. Like many I suppose, I took up care duties for Mum in conjunction with my brother pretty reluctantly at first, it seemed like a slowly accelerating train with more than a mystery tour element - many of us like to plan ahead, but there is no such luxury with any of the dementias I found. I am not a natural carer, but have found myself, now at the end of it all [Mum died last March] a rather more patient and hopefully understanding person. Life is starting over, not without the odd unexpected bump in the road. The family feels pretty reduced with both parents passed now [I have no kids]. the unintended consequences were that I really put my OH through the mill, who is, just now, in recovery himself after a bout of depression. Lessons to learn all round I think. You are all Saints and Stars, bless you and thank you. Chris.