Hi there, I need some serious advice as I see to be getting nowhere! My Mum was diagnosed with Demensia nearly 3 years ago. My father who was going to take care of her for cancer and passed away very suddenly. Before that time my Father was going to build a house on our land that would be better suited for my Mum when she got more ill. When my father was dying his wishes was to sell up the farm and get Mum into a smaller place and with her own private carer. There are two siblings, myself that lives in USA and my sister that lives very close to my Mum. Unfortunately my sister and I have very different ways of living, I moved away from home at a young age and learnt the meaning of work and understanding the value of money, where as my sister has always relied heavily on my parents and lives hand to mouth and loves spending money. Once my father passed away my sister decided that she would go ahead with the build of the house and take over! Of course this lead to massive arguments as this was not my fathers wishes neither my Mums at that time. My father had also taken over POA in the Jan when my mum was diagnosed as he knew how easy manipulated my Mum was when she was with my sister. Once Dad passed away unfortunately the POA went back to my Mum as he never mentioned the reasons he took it away. This was great news to my sister as she can be solely in control of my mother’s finances. Slowly but surely my sister has isolated my mum from her old friends and family. I even have trouble speaking to Mum as the land line number never goes through, if I call my sisters cell number then she won’t let me chat to Mum in her own always has to be in loud speaker so she can hear the conversations. In these two years she has nearly built the house, bought a couple of new cars, a boat, goes on holidays and generally spends like there is no tomorrow. When I try and find out where the money is coming from she shouts and screams telling me she works and it’s none of my business. Unfortunately my mum is not capable of making any decisions and I have tried on a number of occasions to get the POA into place but funny enough my sister doesn’t want that to go through as she will lose some control. I have no way of seeing the bank accounts and the family lawyer is not assisting me at all! I am a complete mess and need some guidance. There is so much more to add but I will be here all night. Please can someone offer me assistance I am besides myself! One last thing on my last visit home, my mum is living in such a mess, my sister says she is looking after her but the house is covered with dirt and mess, there is also random people in the house all the time. I am sure this is not good with someone suffering with demensia. Please help!