Hello
@Kaths
Sometimes family members just don't understand you are trying your best to support the person with Dementia. I endured a lot of painful criticism from my sister when I had to change how much I could support my dad due to my partners health ( Parkinson's ). In the end we just struggled communicating as she could never be civil to me. I tried my best dad had care visits four times a day plus sister and I going in but eventually I cut my visits to around 4 times a week in afternoons and sister was at dads every morning cooking him a breakfast which I had been doing every other day for three years prior to change in circumstances in my own home.
I think you are doing a great job and criticism from family members is not only unwarranted but extremely unkind it can take a toll on your own mental health and wellbeing. We lost our dad in January this year just 7 weeks after he was admitted to a Care Home to be accessed by ASC but his health declined further and hospital admittance discovered a bleed in his stomach and a small stroke. I was approached by the Care Home regarding dad having the vaccination for Covid but dad was already deemed End Of Life when he was returned to them and also Nil By Mouth as swallowing was not possible so I said for dad not to be given it. The Care Home said they were obliged to ask, my dad actually passed away a day or two later he did actually have a Covid positive test which came through day before he died but did not have it put on the Death Certificate by attending GP. I assume he was a case of dying with Covid not because of it.
I think you were absolutely right in getting your mum vaccinated I have had it recently I caught from visiting dad its a nasty virus and I was so ill I had to spend four days in hospital, missed dads funeral and now on medication for 3-6 months as developed a clot in my lung. You are so young still you do deserve to live your own life so yes look into Care Homes if you feel mum is going to need more help than you and other family members can offer her. Personally I felt my dad needed to go into a Care Home way before he did but my sister wouldn't hear of it plus dad didn't want to think about leaving his home and ASC would have to fund a Care Home as dad did not own property or have excessive funds so they were not in a hurry to get him placed in one. Eventually dads carers couldn't cope with him and that is why he was placed in a Care Home for assessment.
Take Care of yourself too its a a horrible part of your life now but you will get through it and everyone on here are fantastic at giving advice and support.