My Dad has vascular dementia. My mother and I are his primary carers. I am mainly a carer because I moved home post uni and while I do have a house lined up for me it needs work done.
I am the youngest of four siblings by a lot. The next youngest before me is 15 years older. My siblings are all my half siblings. My brother is my Mum's son. My sisters are my Dad's daughters. However, despite this my father has been my brother's defacto dad since he was 10 years old. On the other hand, my sisters don't have a good relationship with my mother.
I hope that makes sense?
The issues are my sisters.
Recently they have made life very difficult for me and Mum especially since we are in Lockdown.
My sisters keep insisting on coming up to see my Dad. Either together, or with their whole families. Outside of Covid this would be incredibly stressful as my Dad often doesn't know who they are. Additionally, they often do it suddenly without asking making my mother, this makes us uncomfortable, we feel as though we have no privacy.
When my mother told them this, they started sending borderline harrassing messages to my mother. They insisted that she let them see Dad at least once a week. When my Dad ran away the other day, they threatened to report us to social services. Social Services are involved and said we did everything we could. They've told my mother she has no right to look after my father, because they are his daughters which is more important than my mother being my father's wife.
With Covid, it's worse because while I believe my one sister is taking some precautions to isolate, I am still very nervous. I don't think my other sister is taking many precautions. This is concerning as Dad is 74 and my Mother is 64.
We can't form a bubble with my sisters, mostly because that would be illegal. Also because we have made a bubble with my Grandmother, who lives alone(which is allowed), can't drive, physically disabled and is 83.
Other things my sisters have done:
They've argued my brother doesn't need to see my Dad at all because he isn't my Dad's biological son.
When they have been to see my Dad, neither sister has followed any government guidelines which has actually led to one Covid-scare.
They don't think I am capable to look after my Dad, treating me like I'm a child. I'm 25, nearly 26 years old. I've been living with my father while he's had dementia for just over 2 years. During his fits of violence he often belittles me and shouts at me.
I need literally any advice. I'm tired. I am at my wits end with my sisters.
I am the youngest of four siblings by a lot. The next youngest before me is 15 years older. My siblings are all my half siblings. My brother is my Mum's son. My sisters are my Dad's daughters. However, despite this my father has been my brother's defacto dad since he was 10 years old. On the other hand, my sisters don't have a good relationship with my mother.
I hope that makes sense?
The issues are my sisters.
Recently they have made life very difficult for me and Mum especially since we are in Lockdown.
My sisters keep insisting on coming up to see my Dad. Either together, or with their whole families. Outside of Covid this would be incredibly stressful as my Dad often doesn't know who they are. Additionally, they often do it suddenly without asking making my mother, this makes us uncomfortable, we feel as though we have no privacy.
When my mother told them this, they started sending borderline harrassing messages to my mother. They insisted that she let them see Dad at least once a week. When my Dad ran away the other day, they threatened to report us to social services. Social Services are involved and said we did everything we could. They've told my mother she has no right to look after my father, because they are his daughters which is more important than my mother being my father's wife.
With Covid, it's worse because while I believe my one sister is taking some precautions to isolate, I am still very nervous. I don't think my other sister is taking many precautions. This is concerning as Dad is 74 and my Mother is 64.
We can't form a bubble with my sisters, mostly because that would be illegal. Also because we have made a bubble with my Grandmother, who lives alone(which is allowed), can't drive, physically disabled and is 83.
Other things my sisters have done:
They've argued my brother doesn't need to see my Dad at all because he isn't my Dad's biological son.
When they have been to see my Dad, neither sister has followed any government guidelines which has actually led to one Covid-scare.
They don't think I am capable to look after my Dad, treating me like I'm a child. I'm 25, nearly 26 years old. I've been living with my father while he's had dementia for just over 2 years. During his fits of violence he often belittles me and shouts at me.
I need literally any advice. I'm tired. I am at my wits end with my sisters.
