I've just had a REALLY BAD weekend with mother - in - law.
She has NEVER come to terms with the 'Multi Infarct Dementia' diagnosis for her son. Nor have his MANY brothers and sisters.
Showing them 'Professor and Consultant' letters does not work.....
They have ALL got it wrong, and there is nothing wrong with thier son/brother.
Every day I get accused of neglect and abuse by my husband ( for allegedly not feeding him, helping him have a shower, withholding medication)......
He 'complains' to his family when we (rarely) get to see them, and their first and ONLY reaction is to ask why I haven't done these things for him !!
And accuse me of endangering his life further, by not giving him medication.....
I don't understand why they don't believe me ..... and believe him instead.....
It really upsets me....
We have been keeping several 'diaries', that are signed and dated every day, as proof that I am not in any way neglectful. Signing 3 x a day for meals etc.....
I apparently have learnt how to forge signitures... and family believe him !!!
Only someone in 'our situation' can understand what we are going through.
Seeing a family member for 1 hour here and there does not give a clear picture of what it is like to care for someone with dementia.
I feel so alone.
Does any one know if my husband were to 'push' the abuse / neglect accusations through the Social Worker.....where do I stand , and who will believe me?
(I've 'more than a feeling' that my 'family in laws' want me OUT, so they can claim our home for themselves.
Can't explain here, ......but several family members have had words with me (BULLIED ME), about leaving ).
Any advice PLEASE?????
DaisyG
She has NEVER come to terms with the 'Multi Infarct Dementia' diagnosis for her son. Nor have his MANY brothers and sisters.
Showing them 'Professor and Consultant' letters does not work.....
They have ALL got it wrong, and there is nothing wrong with thier son/brother.
Every day I get accused of neglect and abuse by my husband ( for allegedly not feeding him, helping him have a shower, withholding medication)......
He 'complains' to his family when we (rarely) get to see them, and their first and ONLY reaction is to ask why I haven't done these things for him !!
And accuse me of endangering his life further, by not giving him medication.....
I don't understand why they don't believe me ..... and believe him instead.....
It really upsets me....
We have been keeping several 'diaries', that are signed and dated every day, as proof that I am not in any way neglectful. Signing 3 x a day for meals etc.....
I apparently have learnt how to forge signitures... and family believe him !!!
Only someone in 'our situation' can understand what we are going through.
Seeing a family member for 1 hour here and there does not give a clear picture of what it is like to care for someone with dementia.
I feel so alone.
Does any one know if my husband were to 'push' the abuse / neglect accusations through the Social Worker.....where do I stand , and who will believe me?
(I've 'more than a feeling' that my 'family in laws' want me OUT, so they can claim our home for themselves.
Can't explain here, ......but several family members have had words with me (BULLIED ME), about leaving ).
Any advice PLEASE?????
DaisyG