HI there I posted a while back re my Mum... she has now been in a nursing home since December after previously living with me and my family for nearly 5 yrs. Mum has been diagnosed with frontal lobe syndrome, which the consultant told us in a meeting mast mth.Basically she has good days and bad days, can be very moody and aggressive, then be as nice as you like. I have took over keeping an eye on her money, and have organised her pension to be paid into her bank, so its kept in one place( I am now her appointee)so have kept both her pension card and bank card until I know all in sorted out so I can then close her post office account. I have 3 older brothers, two of which live nearby, one lives abroad but is there for me emotionally. The other two are in the same town as me, one is a selfish person, and the other is okay, but tends to see mum when he feels like it etc etc. I have a hubby who is disabled, 2 young kids and also work full time, and have managed to juggle this for years ( until last Dec) but still manage to visit Mum twice a wk, used to be every other day until I knew I had to let go. Anyway, my middle brother and I had a big fall out today when he has accused me of keeping Mums bank cards and then there wasnt enough left in the home to buy her some slippers. ( I usually am told by the manager when money is running low (I normally draw some out of her acct for her hair etc). Now I havent yet thought about power of attorney, as I was quite happy to manage things myself, but now am thinking maybe I should? My brother has basically made me feel like a thief! I have spoken to Mum about POA previously but she dosnt really get it to be honest so am wondering what the best thing is to do. I take it Mum needs to know all about the POA and agree with it? Thanks for any responses Li xx Anyone been in this position?