Hi all, this is my first post on TP so bear with me but I can definatley relate to dealing with things on your own.My mum has AD and I have been left to deal with and fight for everything regarding mum although I have a brother 11 years older than me and he lives minutes away and I live 35 miles away. My dad was my mums main carer until he had another heart attack and then a social worker was sent to speak to us about mums care at the time I was staying with mum. My mum has always been a very strong character(a bit bossy) and very stubborn so when the social worker suggested mum have respite for a little while she was having none of it, social worker said mum had to go voluntarily, I rang my brother who said he couldnt help he was going on holiday! I didnt know what to do at 1.00 in the morning myself and my daughter who was only 13 at the time were tired ( mum is a walker and doesnt sit down much) I rang the duty social worker who stayed on and off the phone for hours with me and I will always be grateful for that because I thought I was going out of my mind. He arranged for a doctor and care team to come out in the morning to see mum which they did, well to cut a long story short mum was sectioned, this was one of the worst moments of my life, I felt guilty and had to face mum going away and dad having a bit of rest(he was 88 and it was the pressure of coping with mum 24/7 that was taking its toll on him) where was my brother ? nowhere to be seen he didnt even ring me to see if things were ok! Nearly three years on Im still doing everything even though mum is now in a home EMI,socia;l worker meetings,home meetings ,paperwork its endless loving mum is the strength that keeps me going although it takes its toll, Iwill keep o n fighting for her without my brother.Im sorry I seem to have carried on but to anyone out there you are not on your own and just keep doing your best it makes you stonger beleive it or not.Shirl x